So after reading countless threads on this and other MB forums, I decided why don't I talk to the local MB dealer ! 
This is what the service manager said:
- They use Quaker State 80W90 conventional gear oil for front and rear differentials on the ML320
- I pointed out that the service manual says 85W-90 is needed ( 235.7 spec)
but he said 80W-90 meets the requirements
- I ask if the fully synthetic 75W-90 (Mobil 1 , etc.) is OK and he said it is.
I know it's Friday and he could have been on drugs, but thought I will share this info here.
This is what the service manager said:
- They use Quaker State 80W90 conventional gear oil for front and rear differentials on the ML320
- I pointed out that the service manual says 85W-90 is needed ( 235.7 spec)
but he said 80W-90 meets the requirements
- I ask if the fully synthetic 75W-90 (Mobil 1 , etc.) is OK and he said it is.
I know it's Friday and he could have been on drugs, but thought I will share this info here.