So, you have a loop on the original connector, and the radio plugged into the CD changer input? And that works every time? I'll see if I can do the same.
The MOST adapter I have shows as a CD changer to SDS, and is the only thing on the MOST bus. SDS sees the same.
When I start the car, there are four possible scenarios:
1> Everything works as expected. The dash says "AUDIO" and there is sound from the stereo via MOST to the speakers. This is the goal. SDS shows only a CD Changer on the MOST ring. Doing a MOST reset with SDS will cause a brief hiccup in sound, but leave sound playing.
2> What I believe is the Audio Gateway not waking up, but the MOST adapter comes up and is recognized. The dash says "AUDIO" and there is no sound from the MOST speakers. (The sub has a separate amp, and always works.) Eventually - usually within 15 minutes - the AGW realizes there is an audo signal and wakes up, and sound comes from the speakers. SDS shows only a CD changer on the MOST ring, and doing a MOST test will cause sound right away.
3> What I believe is the Audio Gateway waking up before the MOST adapter powers up, so the MOST adapter is not regognized. The dash says "AUDIO" in smaller letters, higher than usual, and then has "---" below it, indicating there is no audio. No sound from the MOST speakers, and the system apparently never wakes up and starts playing. SDS sees nothing on the MOST ring. Doing a MOST test will cause sound, and for the MOST adapter to show as a CD Changer. The dash changes to "AUDIO".
4> What I think is the Audio Gateway waking up and seeing the MOST adapter, but the car stereo itself not getting the message and not sending audio. In this case, the dash says "AUDIO" as normal, and you can hear the little feep noises the controls on the radio make, and sometimes some features have audio - if you press the "mic" button it will prompt for input, but no music or audio output comes out otherwise. SDS shows a CD changer, and a MOST reset does not affect playback. I think this is a bug in the car stereo itself, because the car and SDS show sensible values and it can make feep noises, it just chooses not to play audio.
Yes, I've sat in the car with SDS and played with this a lot. I drove around for a couple of weeks with SDS in the trunk so I could diagnose it wherever it happened.
Failure mode #4: "AUDIO" but no music, only control sounds, seems to me to be a bug in the radio itself. It's getting confusing canbus messages or combinations of inputs and decides it can't play sound. This is not something I expect the MOST adapter to fix. It also happens very rarely.
I think failure modes #2 and #3 are probably caused by low voltage at start, and by the components powering up and responding to each other in a different order. This is why running short trips tends to cause it more, because the battery may not have fully charged. It almost never happened after a brand-new battery, and has crept back slowly.
I have discovered that if I cause a power drain to completely shut down and restart the car, sometimes #2 or #3 will resolve itself right away. #4 always will resolve with this. Basically, convince the car you've gotten out, and force it to go to sleep. Put it in park, set the brake, shut the engine off. Make sure the lights and any other electric draw is off. Open and close the door, twice. Then pump the brake pedal for ten or fifteen seconds. (This causes SBC to run in my car, and may draw power from the alternate battery, which may allow a higher starting voltage. That's a complete guess.) Let the dash go black - should happen when you pump the brake - and then restart the car. 2/3 of the time, the car will start and you'll get state #1, and everything works.
This is annoying, and I'm not thrilled by it, but it's not a disaster. The car runs, drives, etc. Google Maps just won't talk to me. I can shut bluetooth on my phone off and use the handset.
If I make sure to leave the lights off as much as possible, it happens less.
Anyway, if all it takes is moving the head unit to the CD input and making sure all the others are on a loop connection, that's pretty straightforward and I'll see if I can give that a try!