There is a difference between a decision you make that affects you and one you make that affects you and others, who may not agree with you and would argue you have no business making decisions that affect them without consulting them first, and especially when your decision creates circumstances that are different than what they expected when it relates to their personal security.
But that's not what was happening here. The guy made the decision to call the cops and I personally believe that's an overreaction. But I've already said that I understand why he verbally challenged the guy to identify himself and why he asked him to leave the lobby and follow the buzz-in procedure.
I do object to your suggestion that my own preference to mind my own business because I don't really give a shit about what I consider to be a trivial infraction of the house rules is a purposeful act that endangers public safety.
But I get it. You are awoke and empowered to do such things because of your awokedness.
I've heard that expression before and it seems to be used to describe people who are morally progressive, particularly in comparison to others who are less enlightened. This implies a smug sense of superiority.
I think it's pretty arrogant to try to apply that attitude to me when I haven't said anything that even suggests I believe I'm morally superior to anyone else. I just behave the way I think is the right thing at the time and try not to judge others too much for how they behave, unless their behavior might be harmful to others. Let me repeat: I would never have reacted the way Mr. Cuker did, but I'm not about to condemn him for it, either.
In my first post on the subject I put forth an argument that Cuker acted out of racist intentions, but if you read my entire post, you'll see that it was a hypothetical argument where the assumption of bigotry was only given for the purpose of furthering the discussion.
Providing examples of laws that are routinely broken and for which you stand by and do nothing, or aid and abet the scofflaw amounts to diddly squat. Unless it harms someone, at which point I'd like to see you stand up and tell the cops you saw the enabling event occurring but stood by and did nothing and explain why.
I agree with you. Where I think you and I are having differing opinions is our relative estimation of the seriousness of "tailgating" into an apartment lobby. Mr. Cukor think it's a genuine issue of public safety serious enough to call the police. You obviously agree with him. I just don't.
Let me say that I have, in the past, personally taken action when I believe circumstances warrant it. But life is complicated and everyone's judgement of what constitutes actionable circumstances is unique to themselves.
As an example, I play in a rock band and typically play bar gigs. Which means I've seen more than a few bar fights. My policy is to stay as far away from that shit as possible and if someone decides to call the police I'm just going to huddle up with by bandmates by our gear and hope no one notices us.
But there are other times when I will physically intervene in a fight. About 20 years ago, I was at a public park where I witnessed a local man, who I knew was gay, being savagely beaten by another local man, who I knew was a homophobe and bigot. The victim was huddled on the ground in the fetal position while the perpetrator was repeatedly kicking him in the head and chest, while calling him horribly vulgar names that clearly showed he was offended that the guy was gay.
This was before cellphones were common and I couldn't call the cops so I immediately intervened in the altercation because I really feared that the victim was in danger of serious injury. I forced the attacker away from his victim at which point he attacked me. I used my experience in MA and put him on the ground and made sure he couldn't get back up with out doing any real damage to him. Others called the police and they arrested the perpetrator.
Because this was a small town and both of the individuals were local, I had to deal with the consequences of my decision to intervene, which I knew would be the case when I dove in. The owner of the business whee I worked was a friend of the attacker and I was let go shortly after that although the official reason was because they just didn't have enough work for me to do and this was just a routine layoff. Other friends of his blacklisted me and I avoided going into a couple of restaurants because I was genuinely afraid they might spit in my food, or worse.
Some friends of the victim considered me a hero. I was confident from the beginning that the perpetrator posed no real danger to my safety so it wasn't an act of bravery on my part and it wasn't heroic. But just like many of the local residents were pissed off at me for irrational reasons, others looked up to me for equally irrational reasons.
The huge amount of attention being paid to Mr. Cukor is a greatly magnified version of that scenario. Millions of Americans condemn his as a racist, or at least a busybody. Millions of others see him as going out of his way to take a stand for law and order and is being punished simply for trying to ensure the safety of the residents in his building.
I really don't know what to think about him and can't judge his moral character because I don't share the same life experience that he had.