I changed mine after 40,000 km. There is a significant change in ride quality after the change. I drive generally on really bad roads, potholed and uneven for about 250 km at leats once to twice a week. I am going to make my next change at 30,000 km because the relay is cheap.
My current HELLA relay is MADE IN CHINA. The previous HELLA relay that i had was MADE IN SPAIN. The original relay the car came with was the Siemens one. It caused my pump to burn out.
I realized i needed to change my HELLA relay again when the ride was inconsistent. Sometimes the ride was firm and smooth and sometimes the ride was soft over the same stretch of road (setting of suspension remained the same at the first setting).
The relay is really important and since its so cheap, i think everyone should change theirs regularly before it causes the pump to burn out.
At first i thought the relay had gone bad because i had a leak but i have done the soapy water test to the upper and lower seals and everything seems fine. Even after leaving the car for a few days without driving, it hardly drops. My conclusion is that the relay needs to be changed just like most parts of a car because of wear and tear. It doesnt last forever.
The conclusion applies in the case of the pump. Even if you do not have a leak, im sure the pump needs to be changed at regular intervals. When? I havent found out yet. Will let everyone know when it happens!