response to Andrzejek
Hi Andrzejek,
Thanks very much for the info. I did check the pin was in the yellow plastic u shape bracket at the end of the manual shift mechanism and verified it moving while moving the shifter in side the car.
I took the valve body out again this morning and checked all my work and the sleeves, valves and springs are all in the righ place and moving freely.
I did the same thing as you - measured the amount of ATF I drianed out - a total of 5 quarts and put exactly the same amount back in. I am wondering if I lost a quart on the cardboard in the garage and in the valve body drain pan so have made my self a dipstick and calibrating it now per the specs I found on web (54mm low hot, 64mm high hot)
I am planning to clean the electrical connector and get the residual fluid out of it then install, following with refilling the transmission - will then let car run for a half hour and check the fluid level and top off accordingly
If it still wont shift in forward and reverse I figure I am screwed as something is up with either the contactor plate or something inside the valvebody causing low pressure in the clutches - cant imagine I damaged anything as I have been sooo carefull!
I will let you know how it plays out.
If the fluid level is not the issue then I am planning on purchasing a recon valve body from eurpoeantransmissions.com.
Thanks again for your help!

Dan