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The basic lessons
for learning to work well with others were(are) taught in military Boot Camps, (among other places of course).
Don't know how many of you have been in the military, but those who have know exactly what I'm referring too. Boot camp is a wake up call for all the tough guys who want to do everything their way...
Billigerent, non cooperative, cocky attitudes were dealt with harshly and quickly by your own peer group. It made no difference how big or strong they were, and it's usually didn't take more than 1 or 2 blanket parties to get the attitudes where they should be.
Then ya had the Drill Sgt. officially in your face big time, just begging for a wise ass to mouth off...
Needless to say, we were all glad to put that experiance behind us, but those 12 weeks matured everyone for the better.
As I read Billy's replies, kept thinking how much he would really benifit from those experiances if he could make it through, some don't..we had 2 guys in our company that went AWOL because they refused to change, and they knew they were about to catch another midnight punishment.
But for those who did make it, some of the biggest assholes ended up being great guys.....
So there is always hope, and hopefully Billy can take away a little humility from this experiance.
He's really still in training with time to change, when the college thing is over he actually needs to work with others in a cooperative manner, using normal vocabulary and understanding what social skills are.
It's a very rough environment out there job wise, competition is very tough for making decent money. Those that do make it will not talk or act like Billy, and the quicker he learns that lesson the better off he is.
So don't feel too sorry for him, if he's at all even a little lucky he might even begin to think that his problems are brought on by his own behavior.
What happened in this thread is just a very small sample of what life has in store for Billy with the attitudes that he has.
I know a lot of guys and gals from broken families that made better lives for themselves out of sheer will power and very hard work.
The most ironic point is that if Billy were to understand the real power of an honest apology, just about everyone here would accept it and lend him a hand....
So Billy, if your still reading this thread, here's hoping that you've wisen up just a little bit. Start thinking about how you interact with people in a positive manner.
At 20 years of age, you need to do a lot more asking & listening than telling. You will truely begin to gain wisdom, when you start to realize how much you really don't know.
Just some random thoughts from someone who has made a lot of mistakes along the way... But I learned from them, and Billy needs to do the same...