Date registered: Apr 2004
Location: The BlueGrass State
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I did think about this thread this morning while moving block [which I was suppose to move earlier this week]. Two thoughts came up regarding Q's comments.
I knew two sets of parents, each with two boys. Both sets of parents were very hard working, honest straightforward parents.
In one case, dad, former marine was one of my scoutmasters, mom was a telephone company supervisor. Both raised their two boys very well. They and my parents, in my opinion were the best two sets of parents in my town [I might be biased]. Neither drank, were weekly church goers and insured that we did to. Their oldest son Steve and I met at the Baptist church kindergarten when we were 5. We grew up together from there. He was the model child. Like me he never drank, smoked, did drugs fully resisted peer pressure and was a very good student.
His brother, one year younger, under the SAME parents and the same rules and the same guidance and the same system of parenting in the sixties drank, smoked, did drugs and pretty much everything else. He is still, to this day the definition of "friends help friends move, real friends help friends move bodies". He will do ANYTHING. PERIOD. He had the most well disciplined parents in the world. I was at their house nearly as much as my own and know there was no difference in Steve or Mark. Both are great guys. Both are guys that, to this day, if the shit hits the fan you want THEM helping you. But they turned out completely different with the same parenting.
In the second case, a pair of doctors [one MD, one PhD] have a set of twin boys. Both doctors are strict Christian and raised their boys in the church. Both were very well taught right from wrong, both taught honor, morals and an ethical background that were excellent.
I helped one get into the Air Force Academy, he had similar grades and test scores and nailed the exams. The other didn't have the grades, had a juvie record and 15 years later I have had the opportunity to bail him out of jail 4 times in three states. One is a Captain, the other on welfare, drugs and avoids his family. Both were taught the very same values, by the very same parents within the very same parental environment.
Peer pressure and hormones. They win about half the time.
I found this a while back. It fits.
Being smart is knowing the difference, in a sticky situation between a well delivered anecdote and a well delivered antidote - bear.