Date registered: Apr 2004
Location: The BlueGrass State
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I have a friend that I have mentioned earlier that was very much into one of the evangelical churches, very strong family guy, very “anti-gay”, including supporting rallies against gays and funding a “deprogramming clinic”. He managed a restaurant that I frequented and we became good friends since I was there a lot and helped his staff with college class work and other stuff while there. One night he called and said he had a major problem that we had to talk about. 18 hours later we completed a conversation where he had pretty much laid out the past five years of his boyfriend, double life, the fact that now his wife [with four kids] knew, his minister knew. His world came unglued.
Of course the good Christian minister, who my friend had fed weekly, had funded in his mega-church, had supported his every whim, dropped him like a rock. The good preacher organized a boycott against his restaurant and hired lawyers to handle the wife’s divorce and to have the kids completely removed from any visitation. The wife got the restaurant even though she had never dealt with it before.
My friend and I talk often about the shitstorm that he went through and the elements that caused it. His believe is that people, who realize that they are gay, yet try to maintain a solid heterosexual lifestyle put so much pressure on themselves that they overreact and OVER try to not be gay. That does not stop their feelings; it just complicates their lives and caused that part of their lives to start unraveling – at some point. They try so hard to fit in, to cover their true feelings that they go push too hard, become zealots against gays or so embroiled in their religion that it seems they could not be anything but perfect.
In the 14 years since the shitstorm he is a changed man. He is now the most Christian person that I know in the truest sense of the word. He is happy and after eight years of fighting in court got to see his kids again. There are front row seats in Hell for the people that kept him from his kids.
As for his wife and the restaurant, my boycott chi is better than that of any mega-church. It folding in eight months.
Being smart is knowing the difference, in a sticky situation between a well delivered anecdote and a well delivered antidote - bear.
Last edited by mcbear; 03-09-2007 at 09:53 PM.