Date registered: Aug 2006
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Location: Jakarta, Indonesia
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Assertive Women Land Better Men
Office worker Yoon A-ra (28) recently received a wedding invitation from
a friend that gave her pause. "I really can't understand it. Those
of my college friends who were really pretty and nice got married to
such bad guys and are having such a hard time in their marriage. But
those who were neither have gotten married to such nice husbands who
treat them just like princesses."
Why, oh why the unfair distribution? The U.S. columnist Sherry Argov
recently published a book titled "Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat
to Dreamgirl" claiming that 90 percent of the men surveyed are more
attracted to women who stand up for themselves and don't chase after a
man than to women who are nice and sacrifice themselves. In fact, men
don't want to date a girl who is too tough and abrasive, but they
don't feel like dating a yes-woman without any special charms other than
pretty looks either. The Chosun Ilbo asked attractive women about their
If you give him too much, he will lose interest
When people have called a woman a "fox," it often had negative
connotations: is underhand, flirts with men and enjoys breaking men's
heart without thinking about the consequences. Not any more. Women need
to be a smart as a fox: clever and know it, and take full advantage of
it. They are good talkers with a wide range of knowledge and remarkable
abilities and use these strong points to appeal to the men they love.
Women who won't be tamed
The famous gisaeng or Chosun-era entertainment girl Hwang Jin-I could be
a role model for today's women. Perfect as an entertainer, she was
confident enough to suggest to a senior government official that she,
not he, pay for a night with him. Women's studies scholar Jeong Hee-jin
says, "These days, men like women who stimulate them intellectually with
new ideas and views of reality rather than those who are similar to them
in tendency and opinion."
Tough is better than innocent
Women who cook for their man when he is ill and wait for him for hours
when he doesn't show up don't get the love they desire, not even in
soap operas. A pretty face alone cannot guarantee your success in a
relationship, even less so if you routinely sacrifice yourself. Think
about why Anna Jo in the popular MBC sitcom "Couple of Fantasy"
is favored by so many viewers: she speaks English fluently and plays the
piano very well and tries desperately even to match cheap clothes as
best she can after she lost her memory and can't remember that she
is mega rich.
Do whatever it takes
The time has gone when a little anti-aging care was all you needed to
look young and beautiful. Now women are encouraged to pour every bit of
their energy into taking care of their body -- and mind: maintain skin
like a baby's, keep a figure like a 20-something, and strengthen
your mind. That is the trend.
Impossible to conquer
According to Argov, women want stability and predictability while men
like excitement, risk and unpredictable situations. Men get bored with
clingy women who say, "How could you do this to me despite
everything I've done for you?" That just makes a man want to run
away. But knowing the psychology of their men, bitches can control men
like puppets. They are straightforward, don't hesitate to say what
they want, and ignore men when they have to. They never wait by the
A princess becomes a parlor maid the moment she depends on him for
money. That is why bitches are never remiss in saving money. They not
only read all the books on how to invest money wisely, but also know how
to manage an investment portfolio to make a profit.
Claim your rights
Kim So-ra, a writer, says women should speak up and not allow themselves
to be unfairly treated just because of their gender -- some service
workers are rude to women; some men pretend they are seriously injured
when they are involved in an accident caused by women drivers, and so
forth. "Women should try to make the most of consumer protection
centers or Internet boards of government agencies," she advises.