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Is this guy gold diggin' me?

Trust me...this has to do with my benz in a way

I need some guy's opinions on this. I've been seeing this guy for over a year now, we're not too serious but ya know...anyway, he just moved back home to be w/friends, family & for his job. We were both sad when we said goodbye, but said he wanted to keep in touch. Right then he me asked sort of a shocking question, especially at the last minute. But he asked me, "I've always wondered, are your parents loaded?" I'm thinking that comes from the mystery I've always had about myself, I drive a benz, and wear nice clothes, but I never really boast about my parents wealth. He told me he never really knew because he was never at my house, (again we weren't that serious or at least I thought) so I didn't want him to think I was forcing him into anything by "meeting the parents" too soon. He then hinted that is parents weren't as well off as mine, saying that they have never even flown before. I'm not sure if he's insecure that my parents might have more money, or what his motive behind that question was. Like I said, it was weird that he asked me that at the last minute, before he left. I mean he's asked me what they do before in the past, but I never really elaborated on the subject, because I didn't want to come across as a snob. Plus I just started a well pay career, so I don't think he thinks he as to take care of me financially.
Here's the clincher though....awhile back he said to me, "you should buy us a log cabin (where he now lives)" So I dunno I'm confused as to what his true motives are, especially if he wants to keep in contact with me. We'd have to do the long distance thing for a lil while, but I want to know what he's really thinking about this money thing. Any advice? lol I'm kinda lost.
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You must be kidding? A year after having “known” each other nonetheless!
Anyway, back to reality check. Long distance relationships seldom work. If that distance was initiated all of a sudden it is usually suspect. I am guessing that you two don’t communicate much beyond the kissy kissy and the nasty.
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I don't see this as too difficult an issue.If you like him enough to care about maintaining your relationship together and you think it has legs, then just ask him outright why he brought up the subject.If you do have a future together then it will be built on communication and trust and to that end, you have to start somewhere.
On the other hand, if you are not that bothered, tell him to mind his own business and leave it at that.
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"I've always wondered, are your parents loaded?"

Maybe he wanted to know if they were drunk.

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Under the few circumstances you outline, I'd say his motives are less than pure. It sounds almost like he's building one of those "pro-con" lists in his head, trying to balance the reasons he should try to sustain the long distance thing. If that's the case, then how he feels about you doesn't sound as though it's terribly significant to him.

One thing I've learned about the LD relationship, if you give it time, it will prove itself for what it is, so the suggestion I'd toss your way is to simply let it ride, and don't try to force it or read more into it than it's been in the past. If he continues to bring up the money thing, you'll have your answer.

Last thought: it sounds as though you don't think he's "the guy" anyway, so why not put your efforts into seeing some other folks instead of worrying about his motives? You're leaving behind an old job, maybe it's time to leave behind the old boyfriend, too.


PS: re: your vehicle profile, you're better off without Paris' Benz; you'd never be able to wash the skank out of it.

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You must be kidding? A year after having “known” each other nonetheless!
Anyway, back to reality check. Long distance relationships seldom work. If that distance was initiated all of a sudden it is usually suspect. I am guessing that you two don’t communicate much beyond the kissy kissy and the nasty.
yah unfortunately I'm not kidding...of course we talked about stuff, but I'm not one to brag so I didn't want to bring up certain subjects if we weren't getting serious, so I never bragged. So I'm thinking that was always a mystery to him. Anyways, yah communication is key.
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"PS: re: your vehicle profile, you're better off without Paris' Benz; you'd never be able to wash the skank out of it. "

What is skank?, is it like skunk or skink?
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yah unfortunately I'm not kidding...of course we talked about stuff, but I'm not one to brag so I didn't want to bring up certain subjects if we weren't getting serious, so I never bragged. So I'm thinking that was always a mystery to him. Anyways, yah communication is key.
Yah, no communications no relationship, move on!
You don't have to be like an open book either. The balance is in the nature of the communications and the emotions they bring upfront and the anxieties they spawn.
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[QUOTE=ThrillKill]"I've always wondered, are your parents loaded?"

Maybe he wanted to know if they were drunk.[/QUOTE

just maybe....lol
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I don't see this as too difficult an issue.If you like him enough to care about maintaining your relationship together and you think it has legs, then just ask him outright why he brought up the subject.If you do have a future together then it will be built on communication and trust and to that end, you have to start somewhere.
On the other hand, if you are not that bothered, tell him to mind his own business and leave it at that.
yah I just maybe hope it isn't too late..ya know to start the communication & honest thing again, especially since he wants to keep in touch..we'll see though.
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