Originally Posted by azimuth
to give him the benefit of the doubt, it might be worthwhile to see if he was probing for feasibility. Many times a poor guy will fall for a rich girl and feel as though he can't compete with dad's money. Maybe he was trying to discover the nature of your providence.
If he thought you were the source, and not daddy, then maybe he could deal with it. On the other hand, daddy's money can come with strings attached with which he may not care to live.
The cabin comment may have been a fishing exercise to see if you were interested in a next step. He's poor and cannot offer what you may want in a living arrangement.
or he could be scamming you for some cash to pay off old gambling debts gone fatal........
And I'm wondering why he asked right before he left. If it is the case where he's afraid of daddy's money, which I might add that my parents aren't flashy at all, they invest their money wisely. He said he wondered if I lived in this huge mansion, which I don't, like I said, we're modest. Now I regret that I never brought him over to the house, but again, I thought he would've thought that things weren't getting too serious or something or if he wasn't ready. The thing is, I want to be honest with him, but is it too late? How should I tell him, through phone or email, (I'm alot better expressing my feelings in a letter) but I'm not sure what guys think about that.
And like you said, he could be wondering how much money I will have someday which might make him feel comfortable because his parents won't have as much.
When he mentioned the log cabin, I told him it would be fun to live in the woods, etc etc.
Anyways, I don't wan thim to feel threatened by my dad when he's not that type at all nor is my mom. So I guess I'll just wait and see what happens and be patient.
that was deep lol