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OT : Should I have kids?

So...my wife - who has always been a career woman (makes more momey than I do) - has started talking scary. In the past her position has always been that she doesn't have the time and energy for motherhood and always thought babies were loud, dirty little money pits.

Now she's always cuddling every baby she can get her hands on and wondering out loud if she would make a good mother. She hasn't explicitly come out and said she's changed her mind and wants children, but I think it's only a matter of time. [:0]

Now to be honest, I'm not sure if I can handle fatherhood. I know some people say that once they first see their baby, their life changes and suddenly has meaning. I'm thinking of the sleepless nights, the day care, the teenage years, college tuitions...NO MORE SUPERCHARGERS!

I guess I'm being shallow. Someone out there please give me a pep talk about how great parenthood is so I can do something more than break out into hives when my wife brings up the subject officially.

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I will let you know in 3 months [:p][:p][:p]
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Oh, and as far as being money pits; yes yes and yes.

We've spent 1000's on our upcoming daughter, there is no end to the stuff you need to get.
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RE: OT : Should I have kids?

Its the best thing that ever happened to me--BY FAR! There is nothing in the world that brings the joys of parenthood. Often times our selfish side makes us look at the things that we wont be able to do with children in our lives, but the postive things far outweigh the negative. Rather its a girl or boy, your joys will be the same. My daughter is simply GREAT[:D]
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RE: OT : Should I have kids?

After 20 years of marriage and both with good jobs, we are expecting our first (a girl) in about 5 weeks! It has been a ride, though. We have had to see a high risk specialist for 7 months now and we are out, in travel expenses alone, over $8,000. I know this is just a drop in the bucket what we'll be spending but I think it will all be worth it.

I'd definitely go for it, though you need to do it while you're still younger. As for us, we didn't know she could get pregnant since she had been told by every doctor it wasn't possible. This is the 3rd pregnancy in 1 1/2 years.

P.S. Got those steps ready, didn't you??[:D]
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My wonderful 8 year old son "Jules"..of course named after my childhood hero "Julius Erving" aka Dr. J. has forever made me a better person....Mere words cannot describe the sheer joy, he brings to my life.....The greatest thing, l can say about having a boy, is that l am able to re-live my youth.... all over again....and that in itself is priceless.. [:D]

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RE: OT : Should I have kids? YES!!!

Yep, everything you and you wife think about kids is ABSOLUTELY true - they're a pain, money pit, noisy, roudy, etc,etc!!! They'll suck up all of your time and maybe, just maybe that supercharger will have to wait. But man, I gotta tell you, they're the best to hang out with. I have three and I'm loving every moment of it. Despite them their "baggage", they just have a way to make you smile and wonder how fortunate you are. And then there are those times when my son (9yrs old) would ask me Daddy, can that thing go up to 90??, refering to the 500's speedo needle. Usually, I don't respond and as soon as I find open road, he grins wide as he watches the needle gradually climb to his target!!! Trust me, you won't loose any of your adventourous side - just delayed until they got to age!!!

Besides, you get to spend quality time in bed with your wife, what better way to communicate!!!

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RE: OT : Should I have kids?

I may be at another point here, but, I have two children, girl 28, boy 33.
I would change nothing, even though the college was tough, and we are just now starting to enjoy life again.
Then I have something for you all to think about: My daughter is having twins soon, making me a grandfather! Now we can do it all again without the pressure!!

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There's nothing better than having your own child in this world we live in. Life learning, instincts and biology kick in once he/she is born...if you are normal and were raised in a good loving family go for it now.

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RE: OT : Should I have kids?

And teach them to be well-behaved before sending them to me at school [;)]

My partner and I have 2 kids, ages 14 and 10 and they are great. I also have 260 kids in my school (grades 7-12) where I am asst principal and a teacher and MOST of them are great too. Go for it while you are young enough to enjoy life after they go off on their own. [:)]

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