Date registered: Sep 2002
Vehicle: ML430/ SL500 SA
Location: El Dorado Hills, CA
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RE: OT : Should I have kids?
This is a sensitive subject. I will tell you what has worked well for my wife and I.
My wife was a career woman. She made more money than I did. While we were dating she put her finger in my chest one day and said, "By the way, when I start having babies I am going to stay home with them and you will support us." (Not really in that way...we agreed that it was our plan.)
So we set out with a division of labor strategy in our home. I was in charge of making the money, she was in charge of taking care of the kids.
I RARELY showed up bleary eyed to work, because my wife was up all night with the kids...not me. My co-workers with working spouses could not keep up.
I now earn more than double our previous COMBINED incomes, thanks to our team approach. My wife's half is more than she ever made working outside the home. We have 3 daughters between 3 and 7 and it works for us. My wife will probably ease jump back in with the adults when the kids are older- if she wants to.
My personal feeling is why the hell get married if not to have kids? They are my reason for living. My wife and I love them more than we love each other and we joyfully acknowledge it.
Ever see "City Slickers"? There is a scene where the grizzled cowboy says something about how life is all about "one thing". What is that "one thing"? It is what you decide it is going to be. Deciding that your family is that "one thing" is a liberating choice. Kids don't limit your horizons by any stretch of the imagination.
"I feel much better ever since I gave up hope."
1999 ML430 * Navigation System * 285/70 R17 All terrain T/As -33 inchers*ORC suspension lift kit* Side Step Rail Rock Sliders * Brush Guard * HELLA lamps * Front Skid Plate* All Weather Mats * All-Terrain Rear Seat Cover * Wet Okole Neoprene Front seat covers* All-Weather Rear Cargo Mat/Divider * Yakima LoadWarrior Rack * Roofmount Fullsize spare * Trailer Hitch * Rhino Hitch Step* Rhino Tail Light Guards* WARN 8000i Multi-Mount Winch* Go-Light Remote Motorized Spotlight * Moto-Jack Motorcycle Carrier
2002 SL500 Sliver Arrow w/limited edition James Bond briefcase