Date registered: Sep 2004
Vehicle: 2014 E250 Bluetec 4-Matic, 1983 240D 4-Speed
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RE: "Abstinence" programs cause teenagers to screw
I am lucky enough to have a daughter and two sons. Being personally responsible for decisions, including those involving sex, is something that has to be taught from early childhood. If you understand you are responsible for your decisions and learn to trust your own judgement early in life, it sticks with you and works for the issues you face later, like sex.
Open communication, and instilling self confidence and being personally responsible for one's decisons goes a lot further than just ignoring the whole concept of the developing sex drive in your kids, or telling them to ignore it. A little guidance on what it is and what it is there for, with the necessary training to be able to confidently make important decisions correctly before the time arrives appears to be working. We'll see, but it feels better to be trying to give our kids tools to use to make decisions that we faced than to lie about what we did and try to get them to believe in some fairy tales about how to control their sex lives.
Mother Nature doesn't trust our intellect or our social structures to keep things working so the species survives, so the program to plant seeds by males and to have seeds planted by females is not some trivial program you can run when you decide you want it running. It is on all the time, and when it stops I hope I die.
The fact that the program is abused by commercial entities to make money is relatively new and may be influencing when kid's programs switch "on" and they become inundated in their own sexual curiousity. I doubt the lip stick commercials, or other "make-up" commercials, jeans, bras, cars, tough guys, etc. are ever going to be banned because even Republicans and religious loonies in America are getting rich selling these products and no one will tolerate a downturn in business just to keep a couple of highschool girls from getting pregnant. Or a couple thousand.
My take is to acknowledge reality and deal with it. The other approaches are a waste of time and effort. Jim